Reader submission 2 – Tony intactivist

This is wonderfully written and I completely agree with Tony.

The Case Against Intactivism

This post is submitted as a rebuttal to the prior guest post.

This is the one and only rebuttal post that I will allow.  The comments section is where you may reply to a post you disagree with.  That is not what reader submissions are meant for.

This is posted as is with no corrections or deletions.  This is obviously not written as an opinion by myself

GUEST POST – Rebuttal to “Reader Submission 1 -Parents Choice”

“Reader Submission 1 -Parents Choice” is a weird mix of rationalization from conclusion, argumentum ad populum, and straw men.

The writer claims “most men who are circumcised are happy with it. They are happy with their parents’ choice.” I agree with this, although my experience suggests that the approval rate is lower than most understand. But so what? It doesn’t demonstrate anything useful in defense of parental choice for non-therapeutic circumcision. “We’re happy…

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What is ASMR? Well, the simple answer is Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response. I’m sure you’re still scratching your head asking, “And what is that?!”

I discovered ASMR when I was pregnant with C. I was in the Army and I was on the mid shift, I needed to sleep during the day so I could be up at night. I was always an insomniac but I had the added joy of pregnancy insomnia. I used to love watching Bob Ross on The Joy of Painting as his voice was so soothing and her mannerisms were relaxing as well. I was trying to YouTube his videos and despite my best efforts there aren’t that many out there. So I ran across a woman named Lita who has a silky, soft, utterly relaxing voice where she demonstrates massage techniques and basically melts your entire being into a pool of goo; goo that is now dying for a massage!.

The more I searched for videos similar to this, the more I discovered certain subject content not only made me sleepy and relaxed, but also gave me these chill-like tingles. They start at the top of my head and enjoyably slither down my neck and back. Occasionally they find their way down my arms. This feeling is the most pleasant experience and one I only thought I would get through touch (such as a massage or light touches down your neck and back). I had come to find that this sensation of tingles was also able to be achieved through sight and sound.

I found that I like videos about hair (styling, brushing, cutting), massage, jewelry (think home shopping network) and so I would search for tutorials on these subjects. Well one day I stumbled across a video that said ASMR in the title or description and seemed to be tailored specifically to people who enjoyed watching these tutorial type videos. This was over 3 years ago. From then on I discovered a whole new world (move over Jasmine), this ASMR community. At first glance, it was a fledgling community with a small following. There were a handful of people making these videos and they were good. I then found Maria aka GentleWhispering. Oh. My. Goodness.

The level of detail and effort she put into her videos was astounding. The soft spoken voice and whispering voice she has is perfectly suited for ASMR. Her creative ideas are exactly what I was looking for. By the time I found her channel (they are now affectionately referred to as ASMR artists) I had discovered the term “triggers” which refers to the types of things that trigger you and give you the chill-like sensation also coined by many in the community as “tingles”. My triggers were whispering, tapping, softly speaking, accents, hair and make-up role plays, and more. Maria has these gentle ways of movement with her hands and gestures. She moves slowly and gracefully and the rhythm of her voice can be mesmerizing. I never would make it to the end of any of her videos. I would always be passed out around 8-10 minutes in. I would go back the next night in hopes of seeing the end, but alas, I would be deep into dreamland.

The ASMR community is now booming, new artists are popping up, and there are so many triggers to keep track of it’ll blow your mind. But it seems there are more than enough people that do not or cannot experience ASMR. I wonder why that may be. For me, the setting has to be right. No distraction, no other sounds around me (head phones are a must), my mind cannot be wandering or the effect eludes me. I’ve come up with a few items ASMR virgins may want to try if they hope to experience this mind numbing, sleep inducing, relaxed state.

1.Sit down or lay down somewhere comfortable where you won’t feel the need to constantly move around or adjust.

2.Watch these videos at a time you won’t be disturbed (I know this is difficult for those of us with kids, I tend to only be able to watch at night when the kids are asleep).

3.Be aware that it may take a long time to find your own triggers and artists that get a response from your nervous system. Some people, while they make absolutely awesome videos, elicit no ASMR from me whatsoever. It’s funny, some of these artists are so good and make such interesting videos that I will watch them even though I know I won’t experience ASMR. I still find them relaxing so I subscribe and enjoy.

4.This is a BIG one. Stop thinking. Easy, right?! I have one of those minds that don’t quit. Always thinking, pondering, wondering. But I’ve found when I immerse myself in a video and let it take my full attention that the tingles are abundant and intense. As soon as my mind starts to wander, the tingles disappear.

5.Browse, browse, browse. Search keywords. Tapping, whisper, role-play, camera brushing, scratching, typing, hair, etc. Some people like slow and deliberate tapping while others enjoy movements that are quick and loud.

6.Lastly, try not to let the initial weirdness of it all turn you away. I do understand that it is not your garden variety YouTube video. But I promise that if you are one of the lucky ones who are able to experience ASMR, it’ll be worth it to drive on and find your place.

Another interesting tidbit, I (and many others) have discovered that you can give yourself a sort of ASMR burnout where the more you watch, the less you’ll get tingles. And it seems the only cure is to take a break or find something new and different. I’ve found that when I don’t watch every night, the tingles stick around and are always strong. Too much of a good thing can definitely limit your experience.

Of course, there is no fun in a post such as this without a few links and examples! My subscriptions include:

Heather Feather


Olivia’s Kissper ASMR (she is by far my favorite, and has given me the strongest tingles, most consistently)



Hailey WhisperingRose



There are many more ASMR artists I enjoy but these people churn out videos and really hit a wide variety of triggers. The are inventive and creative and dedicated and they have QUITE the following. If I can ever figure out the right equipment I need to make my own ASMR videos I would hope to one day be at their level.

Hypocritical women!


This is Charlene. She is currently bashing women who nurse in public, especially those that do so without a cover. She claims she wouldn’t want her boys to see something like that. Funny, she seems to not have a problem exposing more of her breasts than a nursing mother does without a cover! Heck, she is about an inch of fabric away from being completely topless! Now hear me out. I personally don’t have a problem with what she is wearing BUT she is crusading against women who are FEEDING their babies. Her breasts are out just for a fun time, saying hello to any eyes young or old, male or female! She says take a baby somewhere else, it is not for others to see! How hypocritical! ImageGoodness forbid anyone have to explain to their child about tattoos before their precious brains are ready for such debauchery! /s

2 under 2


278126_10151492039395116_1241735817_oWow! I have been away for so long, let’s see if I remember how to do this thing! My sweet booger #2 is 3 months old today, while Charlie will be 17 months come the 18th. Dani is amazing. I already had so much love for Charlie I feared there would never be enough room in my heart to love another being as much as I love Charlie. Dead wrong. Dani is the second light of my life. She is so much like her big sister and at the same time so different! First of all, she is a much better sleeper. I can lay her in her rock n’ play sleeper and she will go to sleep. I had to let Charlie sleep on me for over 7 months before she would sleep without me. She is so full of smile! Charlie would mad dog everyone. Frowns galore. But Dani giggles and smiles and is so bubbly. And my goodness, the girl is talkative! She coos and gurgles and makes so many sounds and started doing so at a couple weeks old. She actually “sings” along with me. She grabs for her toys and mobiles and reaches out for my face. Charlie didn’t do all that until way later.

My little angel

My little angel

Having another baby so soon has definitely been tough. Only recently have the girls been napping at the same time. And as soon as I get used to it, they switch it up and start sleeping on opposite schedules. I don’t mind that seeing as I get one on one time with each sweetie.

There is so much more to come but I wanted to put a quick update out there and hopefully grease the wheels on my blogging and reviews again!


CJ’s Product Review (BUTTer, Carcass Cleaner, Wool Refresher)


So I bet you’re wondering what you should use as diaper cream for your baby’s bum now that you are cloth diapering! You know you can’t use Desitin or anything like that unless you use a liner to protect your precious diaper from the evilness that will turn into repelling from such creams.Well I have been using CJ’s products for a while now. I have the CJ’s BUTTer in Lavender and Tea Tree Oil and in Blueberry Crumble (HEAVENLY!). I also have the wool refresher spray in Blueberry Crumble and the Carcass Cleaner in Intrigue.

Let’s start with the BUTTer. AMAZING. I always usually put this on before bedtime and throughout the day. Her little cheeks are so soft and moisturized because of this spray! She never really gets rashes anymore now that I use fitteds with wool and fleece since her skin is always getting air flow but sometimes a particularly wicked poo will get her a little red so I spritz this on and voila! No redness. Not to mention her stinky cheeks now smell like fresh bakery items or lovely essential oils.

Next is the Carcass Cleaner. This can be used a baby wash or as wipe solution for cloth wipes. It smells SO fresh and light. Just a couple pumps in the water and it makes a huge difference. The poo is wiped off nicely, the pee is cleaned thoroughly and again, her little cheeks smell great! I squeeze my wipes out with every use and this lasts for 2 days with multiple changings which is perfect for us.

And last but not least is the wool refresher. I use this every 3 or 4 times I use a wool longie/shortie/soaker. It smells just as delicious as the BUTTer. It works wonderfully, too. My wool smells clean and continues to be water resistant every night. It is so easy to use and extends the time needed between wool washing and lanolizing. You can’t beat that!

They have so many scents to choose from and I personally feel like I don’t need to try any other brand I am so happy with CJ’s products. I can’t wait to try a new scent, but it’s going to be a while because these bad boys last forever!

From Pockets to Fitteds!


So as you all know I started off with my stash being all pocket diapers. After a very short period of time I tried my first fitted and fell in love! I now had to sell all my pockets to fund fitteds. I still like AI2s for long outings since they are waterproof and still easy to use yet dry much faster than AIOs.

So here is my updated stash!


The top row is Ari Safari, DDDiapers, RockinRobbies.

2nd row: BubeBebe, BubuBebe, Bububebe, and Little Fancy Pants Sleepy fitted

3rd row: All Little Fancy Pants

4th row: Macaroni Baby, Goodmama, Goodmama, Goodmama

5th row: MAGZ, Little Boppers, Little Boppers, and KyroBugz

This was in the wash when I took my fitteds picture.

Top is a lil’ Pooligans AI2

2nd row: Sbish Medium, Lucky Little C’s

3rd row: Bagshot Row Bamboo, Pinkseamstress, DDDiapers

AI2s and Pockets

1st row: RockinRobbies AI2, Little Boppers AI2, lil’ Pooligans AI2, Hip Bums pocket

2nd row: Rockin Rumps AI2, lil’ Pooligans AI2, lil’ Pooligans AI2, Kawaii Bamboo pocket

3rd row: Rockin Rumps AI2, Little Boppers AI2, LilyLouHoo AI2, Kawaii Bamboo Pocket

Here are some of my Newborn stash from Bumstoppers and Little Boppers and DDDiapers:

NB diapers are the cutest!

1st row: all Little Boppers

2nd row: DDDiapers, DDDiapers, Bumstoppers

I still have 2 Bumstoppers coming in the mail and just placed a fabric order for 3 Christmas diapers! And Anne from Little Boppers includes wipes and wipe solution samples with all purchases which is always an amazing surprise and more than generous of her considering her diapers are wonderful and so darn cute!

Just click on the links and they will take you to the WAHMs Etsy, Hyena Cart, or Facebook page! I just decided while writing this post that my AI2s are sufficient for waterproof diapers and I will be selling my last three pockets! The Kawaiis really are wonderful but I just don’t use them! More moolah for more fitteds! Ugh, I think I have a problem…

These two just came in the mail 5 minutes ago from Lucky Little C’s Diapers!


MoMo loves them!

Fluff Hugging!

Switch from PUL covers to wool and fleece!


I’m not gonna lie. I was terrified to try wool. Fleece was a lot less scary, but still…PUL seemed easiest. Don’t get me wrong, my Flip covers paired with fitted worked great. I was even able to use pocket diapers with one charcoal bamboo insert for overnight. I let my girl roam coverless in her fitteds during the day and change her when she feels damp. But no matter what I did, I kept running across wool and fleece for sale. I half way bit the bullet and bought some fleece (that took FOREVER to arrive) and it sat there. Next I made a tentative post about wool and my fears of lanolizing and care. Multiple people squashed the idea of it being hard. I was started to be swayed…

Then I saw some for sale posts on my local swap page. And I went for it.


Fleece from Living Green Baby on Etsy.

I have had Mo-Mo in various fitteds (including a LFP night time diaper which I SWEAR needs no cover!) and put her in both the wool and the fleece. It is amazing! And it works!

Next morning in her wool shorties!

The material is so breathable I know her little bum isn’t being suffocated in these. She would have little rashes with her disposables after using them at night. I spray her with CJs BUTTer in Blueberry Crumble or Lavender and Tea Tree Oil throughout the day and at night and she hasn’t had a single rash.

Fluffy Butt!

She wore her pink fleece with her Sbish Medium Fitted when we went out yesterday and again, dry as a bone! I am so happy I decided to switch over to wool and fleece. Not to mention it barely cost me a thing as I sold my Flips and a few other covers to fund my new wool and fleece habit!

I’m actually excited to lanolize my wool and use the CJs Wool Refresher Spray!. I have a wool wash with lanolin and I found my Lanisoh lanolin so I’m pretty set for a long time on my wool care supplies. This is going to be so much fun!